Yesterday, I spent nearly 5 hours in the company of two delightful boys, one is 7 and the other is 5.
We baked shortbread biscuits and a two layered vanilla birthday cake, with buttercup frosting, complete with birthday messages and candles, after which we invited their parents and 5 month old brother to join our little tea party.
I did not even have a teeny weeny piece of cake.
This is a first.
There is hope for me yet.
At one point, the 5 year old declared that I was his best “Belle.” His mum tells me this is the height of his compliments.
At another point, he said:
“Mummy said you’re separated from your husband and you are no longer friends. You have two new friends, X and Y.” He proclaimed, naming his brother and himself.
That comment nearly moved me to tears. I gave both of them a high five, a kiss and a cuddle.
He also declared that I had the nicest kitchen in the whole wide world.
Isn’t it just amazing how kids can make everything seem so easy and uncomplicated?
Since the last time that I wrote, the transfer of equity of my beautiful home into my sole name has completed. I looked at the title deed with my full name on it, with tears of joy, so much pride and immense gratitude that I have come out of my nightmare with a clean break and with my home as mine.
Just over a week ago, I finally deleted my ex ‘s phone numbers and that of his mum and sister from my contact list. The time was right and it felt good to have that firm closure.
But…things are not completely over.
My ex is still continuing with his ridiculous and crazy stance of taking me to court to fight over a previously jointly used mac computer which is over three years old and which I have been using alone since he left in April 2015.
The fact that this man is going ahead with this utterly ridiculous case tells me that his madness has not waned. His ludicrous barrister, with over 20 years experience, had demanded half a day of a busy Central London court, the busiest family court in the country, to talk shit about this computer.
The court has allocated 5 minutes instead of the demanded half a day.
Oh and for this laughable case, we are both required to prepare like a real case, exchange witness statements, evidence and all sorts.
I have been told to be prepared to be totally lambasted by an angry judge for this stupid matter coming to court but so be it.
I look forward to a fun trip to Central London after which I will meet a friend for dinner and have a laugh.
In other news, I am still doing well in my diet.
I am also using my gym and in the last couple of weeks, have decided to weigh once a week instead of my previous obsession of weighing two or three times daily.